What I believe to be true about
addictive/compulsive behavior
Robert Michel
An addictive person is one who believes that they are not
whole, and that by adding an “X Factor,” they will be whole. The “X Factor” can
be a substance, such as drugs or alcohol, or it can be an experience, such as
gambling or sex. What the addictive person in each case has in common is the
feeling that they are not capable of functioning the way they desire without
the stimulus of the “X Factor”.
Often we associate addiction with personality. According to
the Science of Mind textbook, factors to be considered in the development of
personality are listed here:
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Heredity
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Race-suggestion
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Environment
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Child training
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Education
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Auto-suggestion
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Anything impinging on conscience
Heredity may promote physical addiction and/or addictive
behavior. For example, some ethnic groups, such as Native Americans, have not
developed a resistance to alcohol and may become addicted more easily than
other groups. Other ethnic groups may actively promote addictive behavior, like
smoking cigarettes in Eastern Europe.
Race suggestion feeds an addictive mentality by promulgating
the sex appeal of addictive behavior, and this may be Madison Avenue playing on
our psyches. When our society continuously reinforces the perceived attractiveness
of smoking or drinking, it tends to absorb into the collective consciousness
and find its way into our personalities.
Environment also can support addictive behavior and
personalities. When a person is born into a family already addicted to the “X
Factor,” it becomes normal that the new family member is also an “X Factor”
addict. The family is not the only source of an environmental influence; kid’s
cohorts growing up have a similar effect to family: “If you are from our
neighborhood, you do the “X Factor” with us – or you are an outsider.”
Child training feeds addictive personalities when the
training is rife with “X Factor” influences. Kids are fed wine at the dinner
table in some families and this normalizes getting drunk. Kids see drinking on
TV or in the movies and they get trained in the idea that it is OK and normal
to drink. The same thing goes for gambling, sex, and drugs: many kids get
trained in these “X Factors” from their parents, TV, movies, and their cohorts.
Education shapes personalities, and lack of education shapes
personalities too. If a person lacks the basic education to survive in the job
market, they easily fall prey to “X Factor” intoxication. Whether it is
substances or compulsive behaviors, lack of education can be tied directly to addictive
behavior.
Other factors shaping personality include auto-suggestion
and “anything impinging on conscience” forms the category of “anything else
that could make a person addictive.” Clearly we do not know the reasons why
every person ends up dependent upon addictive substances or compulsive
destructive behaviors, so we write it off as auto-suggestion (they thought
their way into it) or something impinged on their conscience.
These pathways to addictive personalities are the same that
form non-addictive personalities, just turned in a skewed direction. The addict’s
need for the “X Factor” may stem from any of the listed personality inputs, or
combinations of these inputs, combined with low self-esteem. By addressing the roots of the addictive
personality, they can be treated, and addiction can be healed.